{"id":4105,"date":"2016-09-12T15:19:25","date_gmt":"2016-09-12T08:19:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iit.payap.ac.th\/?page_id=4105"},"modified":"2016-09-12T15:19:25","modified_gmt":"2016-09-12T08:19:25","slug":"30-men-changing-men","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/iit.payap.ac.th\/?page_id=4105","title":{"rendered":"30. Men Changing Men"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"entry-content\">\n<p><strong>Introduction<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The following are suggestions on how to create awareness and prevent potentially harmful situations.<\/p>\n<p>Realize how other men\u2019s uncaring or wrong behavior might affect your own life. Some woman or man that you care about may have been raped. Understand that this person might need your support but might be unable to enter into the relationship at the present time. Also realize that some women who have been raped might feel distrustful of men in general.<\/p>\n<p>Confront other men\u2019s rape jokes and remarks; relate to others why these jokes are not funny and the harmful they can cause.<\/p>\n<p>Confront other men\u2019s harassment \u2013 verbal or physical \u2013of women. Most women don\u2019t consider it flattery but rather a reminder of their vulnerability to rape.<\/p>\n<p>Educate other men about what rape really is. Help them to clear up any misconceptions they might have.<\/p>\n<p>Ask men who you don\u2019t recognize what they are doing in your dorm or residence, or who it is they are looking for.<\/p>\n<p>Confront potential rape scenes. When you see a man verbally harassing a woman, stand by to see if she needs help. If a man is hitting or holding a woman against her will, do something immediately to help her.<\/p>\n<p>When walking in groups of men or alone be conscious as you approach a woman. Be aware of how afraid she might feel, and give her space on the street if possible.<\/p>\n<p>Be supportive of women\u2019s actions to control their own lives and make their own decisions. Don\u2019t be afraid to express these ideas.<\/p>\n<p>If someone you know has expressed violent feelings or demonstrated violent behavior in a particular relationship with someone, try to help him find an appropriate person with which to talk (support services, student activities, private counselor, etc.).<\/p>\n<p><strong>Men, Sexual Assault and Rape<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Introduction<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The following provides advice for men on how to prevent sexual assault or rape from occurring.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Advice for Men<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Think about whether you really want to have sex with someone who does not want to have sex with you; how will you feel afterwards if you r partner tells you s\/he did not want to have sex.<\/li>\n<li>If you are getting a double message from a woman, speak up and clarify what she wants. If you find yourself in a situation with a woman who is unsure about having sex or is saying \u201cno\u201d back off. Suggest talking about it.<\/li>\n<li>Be sensitive to women who are unsure whether they want to have sex. If you put pressure on them you might be forcing them.<\/li>\n<li>Do not assume you both want the same degree of intimacy. She might be interested in some sexual contact other than intercourse. There may be several kinds of sexual activity you might mutually agree to share.<\/li>\n<li>Stay in touch with your sexual desires. Ask yourself if you are really hearing what she wants. Do not let your desires control your actions.<\/li>\n<li>Communicate your sexual desires honestly and as early as possible.<\/li>\n<li>Do not assume her desire for affection is the same of the desire for sex.<\/li>\n<li>A woman who turns you down for sex is not necessarily rejecting you as a person; she is expressing her decision not to participate in a single act at that time.<\/li>\n<li>No one asks to be raped. No matter how a woman behaves, she does not deserve to have her body used in ways she does not want.<\/li>\n<li>The fact that you were intoxicated is not legal defense to rape. You are responsible for your actions, whether you are drunk or sober.<\/li>\n<li>Be aware that a man\u2019s size and physical presence can be intimidating to a woman. Many reason why they did not fight back or struggle.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Men Preventing Date Rape<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The following offers suggestions for avoiding coercive behavior.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Alternatives to Coerciveness<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Listen carefully. Take the time to hear what the woman is saying. If you feel she is not being direct or is giving you a \u201cmixed message\u201d, ask for a clarification.<\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t fall for the common stereotype that when a woman says \u201cno\u201d she really means \u201cyes\u201d. \u201cno\u201d means \u201cno\u201d. If a woman says \u201cno\u201d to sexual contact, believe her and stop.<\/li>\n<li>Remember that date rape is a crime. It is never acceptable to use force in sexual situations, no matter what the circumstances.<\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t make assumptions about a woman\u2019s behavior. Don\u2019t automatically assume that a woman wants to have sex just because she drinks heavily, dresses provocatively, or agree to go to your room. Don\u2019t assume that just because a woman has had sex with you previously she is willing to have sex with you again. Also don\u2019t assume that just because a woman consents to kissing or other sexual intimacies she is willing to have sexual intercourse.<\/li>\n<li>Be aware that having sex with someone who is mentally or physically incapable of giving consent is rape. If you have sex with a woman who is drugged, intoxicated, passed out, incapable of saying \u201cno\u201d, or unaware of what is happening around her, you may be guilty of rape.<\/li>\n<li>Be especially careful in group situations. Be prepared to resist pressure from friends to participate in violent or criminal acts.<\/li>\n<li>\u201cGet involved\u201d if you believe someone is at risk. If you see a woman in trouble at a party or a male friend using force or pressuring a woman, don\u2019t be afraid to intervene. You may save a woman from the trauma of sexual assault and your friend from the ordeal of criminal prosecution.<\/li>\n<li>Finally, realize how other\u2019s uncaring or wrong behavior might affect your own life. Some woman that you know may have been raped. Understand that this person might need your support but might be able to enter into a relationship at the present time. Also realize that some women who have been raped might be distrustful of men in general. This is not an abnormal reaction to such a traumatizing experience.<\/li>\n<li>In dormitories or other residences, men can also help by paying attention to strangers who appear to be wondering around the building. Ask them who they are looking for, and report suspicious behavior to the police at 191<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Introduction The following are suggestions on how to create awareness and prevent potentially harmful situations. Realize how other men\u2019s uncaring or wrong behavior might affect your own life. 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