{"id":4102,"date":"2016-09-12T15:18:17","date_gmt":"2016-09-12T08:18:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iit.payap.ac.th\/?page_id=4102"},"modified":"2016-09-12T15:18:17","modified_gmt":"2016-09-12T08:18:17","slug":"29-for-women-alternatives-to-vulnerability","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/iit.payap.ac.th\/?page_id=4102","title":{"rendered":"29. For Women: Alternatives to Vulnerability"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"entry-content\">\n<p><strong>Introduction<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Following are some alternatives to sexual vulnerability for women in sexual relationships.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Be an active partner in a relationship. When arranging to be with someone, where to meet, what to do, and when to be intimate should all be shared decisions.<\/li>\n<li>Know you sexual intentions and limits. You have the right to say \u201cNO\u201d to any unwanted sexual contact. If you are uncertain about what you want, ask the man to respect your feelings.<\/li>\n<li>Communicate your limits firmly and directly. If you say \u201cNo\u201d, say it like you mean it. Don\u2019t give mixed messages. Back up your words with a firm tone voice and clear body language.<\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t rely on \u201cESP\u201d to get your message across. Don\u2019t assume that your date will automatically know how you feel, or will eventually \u201cget the message\u201d without your having to tell him.<\/li>\n<li>Remember that some people think that drinking heavily, dressing provocatively, or going to another person\u2019s room indicates a willingness to have sex. Be especially careful to communicate your limits and intentions clearly in such situations.<\/li>\n<li>Listen to your gut feelings. If you feel threatened. If you feel uncomfortable or think you may be at risk. Leave the situation immediately and go to safe place.<\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t be afraid to \u201cmake waves\u201d if you feel threatened. If you feel you are being pressured or coerced into sexual activity against your will, don\u2019t hesitate to state your feelings and get out of the situation. Better a few minutes of social awkwardness or embarrassment than the trauma of sexual assault.<\/li>\n<li>Attend large parties with friends you can trust. Agree to \u201clook out\u201d for one another. Try to leave with group, rather than alone or with someone you don\u2019t\u2019 know very well.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When we think about alternatives to vulnerability, we must be careful not to assume that there is always something the victim \u201ccould have done\u201d to prevent an assault. This is blaming the victim. When a person is sexually assaulted, it is the assault who is to blame.<\/p>\n<p>In addition, sexual assaults, including those committed by acquaintances, may be violent and unexpected. This means that even when the victim is able to assert what s\/he wants, there is no guarantee that his\/her feelings will be respected.<\/p>\n<p>There are no formulas that can guarantee our safety from sexual assault. In a situation that is becoming coercive or violent, the moment is often too confusing to plan an escape, and different people react in various ways. Some will fight back. Others will not fight back for any number of reasons such as fear, self-blame, or not wanting to hurt someone who may be a close friend. While fighting and giving up are both extreme reactions, it\u2019s important to realize that any reaction is legitimate. 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